Philippines bar girl GF dilemma

Hey,
Im young and live in the U.K at the moment, planning to go and tech English in asia. I went to The philippines this summer and met a few girls... from the bar scene.
I became very close to 1 in perticular but i also had feelings for one of the others.
Im back in the U.K now and she(Anne) tells me how much she loves me often. She told me she want nothing from me apart from my love and to be with me. I have also been speaking to the other girl and she tells me how Anna has another customer who she claims to love also. I know she has to work as she has no money, so i can accept this. But not if she loves another guy.

She alwasy tells me how she hasnt been with another guy since i left which i know is a lie because i get told by her friend. Her friend (Alice) also has feelings for me and she seems to be more honest. She want to go back to her province and study at univerity. She has only been workign at the bar for a few months she is 18 and had some very bad luck hich she told me about and then decided to leave her province and become a bar girl but she hates it.

Im split between these girls, i cannot talk to anna about the things she is lieng to me about because i promised her firned i wouldnt because it would cause so much trouble there.

I really dont want to hurt any of these girls... but i have to choose one or none.
I really dont know what to do because i wear my heart on my sleave and have fallen for them both. I dotn know what to beleive anymore.
Alice said she is just tryign to find her prince charming and then she wants to go abck to study, i said i would go and see her in her home province of samar... im pretty sure there are no GIRLY BARS there haha.

I beleive anna is ieing to me but i am finding it hard to let go even though i know if i dotn i will get hurt further down the line.

Alice just seems to be perfect... but i cant let go of Anna

Im probably just an idiot... i want a serious relationship even though im young...

Im just very confused... as i keep thinking to myself Anna could change... but i cant cope with the lieing.

any thought on the situation... sorry about the random layout of the post

Mods - thoughts on this one? My troll sensor has started buzzing but it's borderline so I thought I'd stick it in here...

Difficult to say... that's the thing with these bar girl threads, they're so cringe making to read yet so believable at the same time. I say lets leave it visible because some people find it entertaining.

I'm actually rather tired of replying to these BG threads because it's just the same old rinse/repeat... nono's thread was the last one I wanted to be bothered with.

YoungOne, on 2008-10-08 03:57:51, said:

Is it any wonder, that English language skills are often so poor in this region, when 'teachers' can't even use capitals properly, or even have a grasp of basic spelling and grammar.

Ditch them both - more likely find grief with either of them.

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You got that right.

YoungOne, on 2008-10-08 05:57:51, said:

Where in Samar? Which provice?

Samar has some developing projects, in Northern Samar, there are many beach lots there for sale.
There are also bars in Catarman City. Or check about other small cities, like Calbayog, Catbalogan and over the bridge in Leyte in Tacloban...
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A serious relationship when still young is very OK, however I am not sure, if these 2 girls are the right women, and if you are ready for a long-term relationship.

I'm ready for a long term relationship with your bank account . . .

Wakey wakey of course they both love you. Did you think they would say that they hate you.

I know what you mean about they have to work, blah, blah, blah, but this will only go one way believe me.

How old are these girls and how old are you ?

He says he's young but well, this is what I say to myself every day...

Its funny how your own definition of an "old person" changes as you get older..

To be honest.... I am young im 18 years old...These girls are 18 and 21.
Both girls know they will not be benefiting much financialy from me.
Also this is a forum and no one really takes alot of care with making sure there are no typos or gramatical mistakes... so I would appreciate it if you didn't judge my English, i'm aware I make mistakes but I coudln't care less thank you.

At the risk of getting slated....

If Young One is a troll, what is the problem in it ie why delete the posts (as someone proposed above)? Mandrunk, from other posts on OE I think you say a large proportion of click thrus come to BG related threads. And since (I assume) you earn a fair proportion of your income from this site and thus benefit from increased visitors, why not let the 50/50 troll/not troll posts stand?

Don't want to send this thread off on a tangent, so email or PM me if you wish. As you well know from the stats I post infrequently but visit quite often. No doubt you have your own idea as to what type of person I am from my posts and visits (but I am not jacking off in Sunderland I can assure you). I do like OE as I find it a decent source of discussion and information, without a lot of the hyperbole, melodrama, insults etc that goes on on some of the other Asia related sites. But I do often think you take the policing a bit too seriously sometimes, and that it might drive people away.

Btw to prove the computer ain't always right, I am by the Pearl River in Guangzhou at the moment, not as you would prob think from the ISP stats, in Surrey. Our BES resides there and I am typing this out on a Blackberry 8700 whilst drinking a warm and rather flat draught Tsingtao at Lucys Bar, and contemplating my 15th Marlboro Light menthol of the day (why does Asia make me smoke menthol?!)...but then you probably knew all that already

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Speaking as a mom hear I say FORGET THEM BOTH! Sounds like they are both trying to use you. If you want a serious relationship a bargirl is not the answer. Wait till you move there and look for a girl from a good family. If you just want to have fun do so but be aware that they are in it for a someone to take care of them not for love.

(for arguments sake I will assume you are not a troll Young One)

Young One, you are 18... a very delicate age in a man's life when it is easy to get pussy whipped. Anna sounds like she has you by the balls, and you sound like your too scared to make her let go.

Keep them if you want, just remember that what you are getting is probably prostitution in disguise. Even if your broke, a lot of pinay's consider foreign men to be a well of endless money and security.

If your a high risk person and you really want to try "love" with one of them.. best wager would be Alice. Though regarding "love" she still she bets at $100/1 compared to a innocent catholic cebu girl... but if u like taking risks...

This post has been edited by urbane: 23 August 2009 - 10:06 PM

First question is where is your Dad? I would suggest you have a conversation with him about this.

Next bar girls. They are married to the bar life. That is lots of easy money by hustling guys and shabu (that's crystal methamphetamine). Another fact about them is they spend everything they make and remain poor in spite of making many times what the average Filipino makes. They simply cannot live a normal life. Do not think your going to rescue them from a life of there own choosing. Trust me on this it almost never ever works out.

Now I do understand why your pussy whipped. Another reality check here. These girls which are prostitutes (they typical start at around 16 years old) have F'ed hundreds of guys before you and are laying pipe with different guys every day after you. Do you know what happens when you do something over and over again? You become very good at it.

One more thing to remember, do you know how to tell if a GRO or Japayuki is lying? Her mouth is open. This is no exaggeration. It may surprise you that many of these girls simply do not know how to tell truth about anything, they live by simply adapting to the situation, saying what they think the guy wants and giving him what exactly what he need physically.

I could suggest some good stuff to read but your going to have to ask for it.
Talk to your dad, that would be a good place to start.

This post has been edited by CupOfSoup: 24 August 2009 - 03:10 AM

truth is if you spend anytime at all in the philippines, you'll hear the term crab mentality, everyone on them is the definition of jealousy, they hate seeing one go further than them, so they will always tell you something to drop another in it, be it truth or lies!

they don't have the same values as you and i, a lie comes in various levels to them, if it's below a certain level ( the level is determined by the prize lol) it's not a lie to them!

you need to spend at least 6 months there, before you can suss out their mentality, DO NOT SEND MONEY!!!
there are over 90million ppl there, so must be 45 million girls, which must equate to at the very least 2million girls in your bracket there. it's a buyers market there, that sounds terrible i know, but it's the truth if your not VERY careful, at your age your prime meat.

probability is neither of them love you! don't trust anyone there, and even if you do eventually meet the one, never trust her completely, you will ALWAYS be second to her family!

Over 4,000 views for this one-paged thread...

Coyotes, on 27 August 2009 - 06:06 PM, said:

-Strong words...

...but, you might be right.

With all due respect - They are prostitutes - you do realise that don't you? Would you pick up a girl from a street corner in the UK, pay her 15 nicker for a good time then make her your GF? Don't be a prat, save yourself some time and do some past OE forum reading. Have your fun and get out , then continue to have fun elsewhere, you are far too young to be tied down to anyone let alone take on the baggage of a woman who turned to prostitution because she married young and he left her with kids and she has no education and no other choices etc etc etc etc Don't buy into it , leave that to the sexpests.

peace

In the Philippines, lot of girls can be "bought" for sex, which makes them prostitutes by definition indeed.
But their ultimate goal, usually, is not money but finding a husband.
And when they find one, they're as faithful as any other girl.
But more jealous.
This is why I did not marry a Fillipina girl

Flipper birds are jealous and paranoid to the extreme.