erfarenhet of relationship with thai

In november 2009 when I have been i phuket I met very nice thai woman. It looks like we like each other that's why I said to her that I wil be back in 2 months. The woman have been working i phuket, but she said to me that she will finish her job and will go to north thailand where she will help her family to sell a food on the market.
Efter 2 months she met me i Bangkok. First we went to Pattaja where I have a friend who lives there all the time. She was nice to me and said all the time that she loves me very much. Efter couple days She said to me that she did not went in north thailand i 4 december ( as she told me, she went there 10 december). I have send her 3.000 bath for tickets. I got upset and gave her 3.500 bath for the ticket to... She took money and went early in the morning ( took bus to bangkok). Efter i have been thinking that i have done mistake: I called her and told her that she can come back if she want. She came back and said to me that she would never do it if she did not love me.
Efter 3- 4 days I have bougth a ring to her for 18.000 bath as symbol that I like her very much. The couple days efter my kompis wifehave heard when we were at their house that she have been talking to farang on telefon. Later she said that she have to go to phuket in order to meet her friend. Of couse I was no happy about it. In the morning I went with my friend to do some stuff. She was along in apartment. When I came back she was not there. She called me and said that if I want to see her I have to come to Phuket. I called her later on and said that I will change tickets and go home. Efter that she began to sing in other way. She said that she will be back as soon as possible. She went to phuket with my ring which I gave to her as a symbol of love. She came back and said that the only thing she did there is tatto on her body. I have said to her that my friend have heard that she have been talking to farang and i think that she went to phuket to sleep with him . I said that i think that she have been sleeping with him with my ring on her hand.(she did not left aring on the table when she went to phuket). She said nothing about that.
Later on we went to north thailand to meet her family and friends. Lasts nigth before i went home in my sleep a voice told me 3 times that I should not trust her. When we sat on the buss to Bangkok ( we went with me , she want to put me on the plane) when i asked her about her mobile phone. I looked for thier sms and find out that she send almost the same sms to one man more. (in sms she told him that she finished her job and went to north thailand to help her family, she told him that she loves him very much). I was chockad, i would never go with her if i knew about that.
I told her many times that I like her , love her and want to live with her.
December 10 instead of december 4, phuket and now the sms, all that sound to good to me.
By the way she said to me why she have to go to phuket. She was married before with thai man. But he sold the house, sold a car and gave her nothing. All the thing was on her name that's why she worked in phuket in order to pay money to the bank( she mast pay back around 500.000 bath). Totaly i give her in one month 10.000 bath to help to pay to the bank, bougth a ring 18.000, and gave her 23.000 more as a help. ( totaly 51.000 bath). Fathermore I paid for her when we eat and drink...
Now i'm in my home country. she send sms to me where she says that she has change. That i'm the only one, that she loves me very much, she want to see me again. She will wait for me untill I will come to Thailand ( will be in april). Bfore I have said to her that I can send her 10.000 bath monthly sa that she can pay to the bank. When i have find out about the sms, I said no more money for you! She said that it is OK that i do not send her a money. THe only thing she wants now is to meet me and live with me always She lives now with her family and works from early morning to late evening.
I have been planning to come back to Thailand in 2 months. I really do not know if i should see her again.

ditr, on 08 February 2010 - 08:17 AM, said:

Listen to the sleepy voice!!

ditr, on 08 February 2010 - 08:17 AM, said:

Your 51,000 baht lesson is much cheaper than some others.


Run, Forest, Run!!

She doesn't love you. Save yourself a lot of heartache and dump her.

It's amazing to me that so many men keep falling in to these types of traps.
Am I being naive by saying that I could never know how I would react until I am presented with identical circumstances - until I have walked in their shoes?
I'd like to be able to give these poor gents the benefit of the doubt...unfortunately, no matter how I look at it, the word 'stupid' keeps coming to mind...

Yes - I must admit I am constantly surprised. You need to ask yourself would you do the same thing in a western country? Course you wouldnt - you tell the bird to take a hike quicker then she could ask for a single quid.

Think with your big head, not the little one.

The girl's just trying to maximise her profits, she'll lie and deceive to milk as much money from you as she can.

Have nothing more to do with her.

play the player...she is at her weak point at the moment, she will do anything first to get her what she want, until she got what she want she is good to play with, flash some cash around but by no mean use it..understand me, be the man for the moment, poke them use them as much as you like, at the end of the day just say, well honey i think its not gonna work out for us..and on your way....

Im a bad bad man..<===

This post has been edited by chingy_: 08 February 2010 - 02:11 PM

Is this the same Indian bloke that turned up in Pattaya last year and kept asking the barman did he need to wear a 'Rubber Johnny,' and if so, did he have a spare one to borrow....

chingy_, on 08 February 2010 - 01:09 PM, said:

Thast's what i 'm thingking to do. I'm going to thailans , stay in same place, i wewill get help from her( cheap motobike....) and when i will find a woman who is honest.... I will tell to her . See darling thats' what happen when people try to cheat others.

skydiver777, on 08 February 2010 - 02:50 PM, said:

I do not understand what you mean. Same ? pattaya? what are you talking about?

ditr, on 08 February 2010 - 07:17 AM, said:

Certainly come back to Thailand, and this time meet yourself a wholesome nice girl, there are loads of them, everywhere you look (not on walking street). There are no shortcuts in the bars, except the fast lane to heartache/walletache/dickache.

Better yet, just come to thailand and have fun. Don't buy the BS and just shag yourself silly. Start giving BS back and have fun with the game to speak.

try University chick man! walk around the campus, hang around where they hang out, there are girl in there that want you(farang) as much as you want them.
i go gaga over them all the time.